Charlotte Ostermann

I write, speak, invest, network, and question to stimulate fruitful conversation. Let's talk about human flourishing! It begins with freedom. Holy leisure is the key to human being, freedom and generativity.  Please join me in the adventure of realizing Christ!

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SAW 17: Individual vs Community

1. What proportion of your waking hours do you spend in the company of other people?

About 75%

2. Of your in-company time, what proportion is spent with family only? With single individuals, or small and intimate groups? With small interest- or need-based groups (your alcoholics anonymous meeting or the Brewers Guild, for instance)? In formal instruction or class situations? In formal religious situations (Mass, spiritual direction, prayer sodalities, confession, RCIA, etc.)? In public situations (shopping malls, traffic, airports, , etc.)?

About 73% is family time, the rest about evenly split between friends, Church, small groups and public time running errands, etc… . There is some overlap, as about 6 hours each week of family time includes friends.

3. If you categorized your time as “private” and “public” instead of “alone” and “with people,” what proportion of your time is spent privately vs. publicly?

Almost 100% is private, if I consider friends, small groups, home, Church all private. ‘Personal’ might be a better word. I’m ‘in public’ when running errands, doing public speaking, and blogging from the privacy of my home to readers unknown.

4. What proportion of your time with family is spent at leisure, and what proportion is spent in more of a “task” orientation? (It’s completely up to you whether you think “driving to Church,” for instance, is a leisurely or task-oriented time with your kids; cooking dinner might be a task to accomplish, or you may perceive it as a time of leisure…you get the idea: answer according to your subjective sense of things.)

About 50% of our family time is spent ‘at leisure,’ as most of it occurs when members are off work, out of school, eating and welcoming friends here, or each doing their own leisurely thing. The balance is task time – each one has chores, cooks, different ones shop, and some will do work while in leisurely company with family members.

5. What proportion of your time with spouse and close friends is spent at leisure, and what proportion is spent in a more task-oriented way? (Again, for example, a book study with friends may be a task-oriented activity for you or a leisurely one…it’s your subjective sense of things.)

About 50% of my ‘spouse time’ is task oriented, and almost all my time with friends is spent at leisure. I can imagine a time when friends mostly met to garden, can or sew together, but we have the luxury of just talking.

6. What proportion of your time alone is spent at leisure, and what proportion is spent with a task orientation? (Once again, your commitment to exercise, for example, might feel like a task or like taking time to play…it’s your call.)

I have ‘work days’ that are all work, much of that done alone but in the company of nearby, in-and-out family members. Naptime has always been my guarantee of ‘alone time’. There are very few moments when I am actually alone, but I feel I have the time I need for leisure.

7. What proportion of your time with non–family members is spent in your home or in theirs? Where else do you get together with others?

About 60% is spent in my home or theirs, and the rest at Church, in public space such as bookstores and restaurants.

8. What proportion of your time is spent in pursuit of your own education, or formation, or skill-building (your piano practice, your book study group, your spiritual direction, your reading, etc.)? Is most of this “public” or “private” time?

About 20% of my time, mostly at home with family about, is spent on my own formation, prayer, book group readings.

9. What would you like to work on learning, if you could find a friend or group of friends to do it with you?

I’d like to have friends gather ‘round to learn foreign languages together. I’d also like to try my hand at upholstering an old couch or chair, if there were friends to tackle it with me.

10. What would you like to work on learning, if you could be alone to focus on it by yourself?

It would be nice to get disciplined about learning to play the piano…but I do get frustrated with people around, noise, and interruption, so I don’t wade in. Also, my kids who are learning need priority, so their time on piano bumps mine.

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Building the Bridge

This is my most-requested audio – about how we can educate our children well, despite our own inadequacies. The Problem – We must get kids from where they are, to where they need to be; from ‘uneducated’ to ‘educated’. Given the poverty of our own education, we feel asked to do the impossible: build a […]

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Putting Down Sabbath Roots

Some audiences want to cut right to the chase: “Give us practical applications of all your ideas about Sabbath-keeping.” OK – here you go: In this talk I do just that – give concrete, practical ways to dip into the kind of leisure that brings  interior equanimity and leaves you more whole, more human, more […]

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Women on the Way to Healing

I prepared this talk for the Heart of a Woman group, in Kansas City, shortly after the suicide of a Catholic mother of ten. It was a shock to me, but not entirely unexpected, as I had known her during the years she struggled with depression and disintegration, despite her devotion to the Church, Christ, […]

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High Resolution Beauty

For an Apostles of the Interior Life Women’s Retreat, where the theme was “The King Desires Your Beauty,”  I prepared this truly interesting talk. Will you believe me when I say that this is another of my favorites?!?! I know, I’ve said that about a  lot of these talks, but revisiting them to give a […]

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Sabbath is a Woman

I once asked a friend who calls herself a Jewish-Catholic if it had been hard for her to accept Mary’s role in Salvation History. She laughed and said, “Heck no! Every Sabbath was begun by a Jewish mama’s prayers! I’d have been suspicious if Lord Sabbaoth hadn’t come through a woman.” Jewish women welcomed Sabbath […]

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The Veiled Self

Differences between the original myth of Cupid and Psyche, and C.S. Lewis’ retelling of the myth in Till We Have Faces have the effect of revealing new dimensionality in the Christian understanding of both myth and of the human person. The pre-Christian myth, like the pre-Christian person, is veiled in a darkness that constitutes a […]

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About a Landscape

In “Stour Valley and Dedham Church”  Constable has painted the Vale of Dedham – a familiar and beloved area of his native England.

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A Merry Drinker

 “The Merry Drinker,” by Frans Hals This is a portrait of an unnamed man, called in the title only ‘a merry drinker’.

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A Wedding Feast

Giotto’s painting, The Wedding Feast at Cana, portrays the literal and spiritual senses of this story.

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St. Francis Altar

Berlinghieri’s St. Francis  appears behind the altar of San Francesco in Pescia, Italy. It is an excellent example of art ordered to divine worship.

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Three-Dimensional Transcendentals

Benedictine College hosted a Symposium for Advancing the New Evangelization in 2014. The theme was Transcendentals as Preambles to Faith, and I got to propose my take on that as a paper. Anyone who knows me could probably have bet good money I’d do something ‘three dimensional’ with that, and they’d have won those bets. […]

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A Prayer, A Poem, A Person, A Place

I once got a chance to do an all-day retreat with one of the sister Apostles of the Interior Life. Naturally, I wanted to discuss the role of leisure in the formation of persons! As usual, I prayed about the upcoming event, and God brought together several threads of my contemplation to weave this talk. […]

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Living Poems

Did you know YOU are a poem? Check out Ephesians 2:10, where the Greek ‘poema’ is usually translated ‘workmanship’. I like ‘poema’ better, as it implies beauty and artistry, but ‘workmanship’ is nice. I’ve discussed the importance of poetry, poetic education, poetic imagination and poetic reading in many different venues (many of the talk topics […]

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